I’m Getting Bad-Mouthed
I found out from my daughter that my ex apparently says bad things about me now and then. I don’t know why, as a parent, you’d try to insult the other parent and put the kid in the middle, but apparently that has been happening.
One weird thing about it is that I’ve made a point with both my kids and both those husbands, of not ever saying bad stuff about their dads. I mean it’s fairly obvious that I thought they were assholes to some extent or another or I wouldn’t have left them, but I never brought what I felt to the kids. Somehow I didn’t think that was overly ethical.
And on top of all that, I think of what I did and still do for my 2nd husband, only to find out that he says bad stuff about me.
Think of it, I just had him over last weekend to play cards (even though he was obnoxious and I decided not to do it again). Not only that but we bought furniture for him on our Brick card because he didn’t have the money to buy it himself, and this way he could make payments. I gave him my last car when I bought my current one – and that was “giving”, I didn’t charge him any money for it. On top of that I put him under my car insurance because his insurance rates were going to be too high. We helped him move and helped him decorate his place. I bought stuff for his home and gave him furnishings because he didn’t have them.
That’s just some of the stuff we’ve done for him – not to mention how we have him over for every Christmas, Easter, occasion, birthday and treat him as a family member. Not to mention also that whenever there’s trouble with him and my daughter, he calls me to vent and get advice and have someone to talk to.
So imagine my surprise to hear all kinds of things he’s said about me, with the stipulation to my daughter that she not say anything to me about it.
It’s kind of disheartening to think of that. And it pisses me off since I’ve refrained from ever talking about what a big loser he is. I’m starting to think about karma. And I think I’ll now refrain from being the ‘nice guy’.
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Female, taken, fire, Sagittarius, Monkey, Toronto, two kids, one grandson, IT.
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is the new 30. I want the world to close their mouths when they’re eating or chewing gum. If they don’t, I want to elbow them in the face.
It will come back and bite him on the butt. Kids remember this they will see you never said and bad thing about him and will resent him later. I had the same problem with my 2 ex’s. Keep doing that your going your taking the high road