I’m So Insulted
My honey and I have been together for 8 years. That time has flown by, but he and I both feel the happiest we’ve ever been in any relationship.
Well, at the funeral, his sons wouldn’t talk to me. They wouldn’t even look at me. They pretty much avoided anything to do with me. I noticed this very much – my honey didn’t notice at all because he was busy talking with everyone who was there to be talked to.
Today while he was talking to his son, finding out whether or not they were going out (as per usual on Saturdays), his eldest son told him he didn’t know whether he wanted to see him or not. Apparently that was based on me being at the funeral.
It turns out that my honey’s ex-wife has done nothing but tell all kinds of stories about me, about my honey, to his kids, and they have taken it all to heart.
My honey, on the other hand, made a point of never saying anything bad about her, not wanting to put the kids in the middle of a bad situation, and has never told them the truth about why he left his ex-wife.
So they think that I’m some whore who stole their father away from the ex-wife, along with a bunch of other bad stuff; things I never knew people thought about me when all I’ve ever done is try to help when it was needed.
The funny thing is… on the phone, when my honey gave a little bit of background about “reality” to his eldest son (who is my son’s age), still without bad-mouthing the ex-wife, the son said that, “he didn’t know who to believe any more”.
The reality of that statement is that there is no ‘not knowing who to believe’, those kids obviously believed someone, and it was the ex, because otherwise they wouldn’t have treated me that way.
It was a disgusting situation and I don’t know whether it will ever change. I was very disappointed in his children and I thank God that my kids are not as fucked up.
I don’t know what you’d do in my situation, but ever since that phone call I’ve been mad and upset, and that doesn’t even speak to the issue of my then wondering about what they really think of their father… or are they doing him the big favour of seeing him on all his “visitation” days.
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Maria
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Female, taken, fire, Sagittarius, Monkey, Toronto, two kids, one grandson, IT.
55
is the new 30. I want the world to close their mouths when they’re eating or chewing gum. If they don’t, I want to elbow them in the face.
Tricky situation when kids are involved, or when adults act like kids and then the kids also act the same way.
My take on this type of situation is sometimes its best not to worry about what they say or you think they are saying or thinking about you or even the situation. And more importantly its not a thing you can win. Now matter what you say it will be wrong to one of the parties involved, and sometimes every one will take sides or get thier nickers out of twist. No best to smile sweetly and just look better than her. If you really get pushed into a corner, there is a line from La Femme Nikita, that works here, “I never did mind the little things.”, said with a forced smile, then go get a drink.
Blessed be, BFG